It’s time to step away from my supports and learn who I am — Before I get started, let me just say I understand that coming off mental health medication is not for everyone. I don’t want anyone to feel like I’m shaming them for wanting or needing to stay on medication. This is my story and no one else’s. And my personal journey…

The only one who gets to take you out of your comfort zone is you — Sometimes, in order to grow as human beings, we need to step outside of our comfort zone. And often, this requires someone to give us a push do to so. And so someone encouraging us to do something new isn’t necessarily a Red Flag on its own. But when it…

I didn’t want to admit I needed them, but I really did — For the last year and a half, I have been taking a daily 50mg dose of Sertraline, a common anti-depressant (also known under the brand name Zoloft). But why? How did I get to a point where I believed I needed chemicals to alter my brain in order to be…

How to avoid partners who plan to make you “settle down”? — The decision to begin your journey into polyamory is a big one. Sometimes it involves going slowly, and at other times throwing yourself in headfirst. But one thing I know for sure is that when you know, you know for sure. For some of us, polyamory just makes sense. But…

You might not realised you’re being selfish, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t toxic when it happens — Polyamory may be a wonderful thing, but no relationship model is perfect. There are plenty of ways people can hurt you, either on purpose or unintentionally. That is why you need to be aware of Polyamory Red Flags. Red Flags are the signs that serve as a warning of upcoming…

Life isn’t fair, and neither are relationships — Polyamory may be a wonderful thing, but no relationship model is perfect. There are plenty of ways people can hurt you, either on purpose or unintentionally. That is why you need to be aware of Polyamory Red Flags. Red Flags are the signs that serve as a warning of upcoming…

Is the medication I need holding back my potential? — Every morning, I take 50mg of sertraline, and I do this because I suffer from depression. Having done this, I sit down at my computer and start work. I’m a full-time writer. I write fiction, I’m a freelance ghostwriter, and, of course, I write articles for Medium. I love what…

Does monogamy’s history mean it can never be anything other than a tool of the Patriarchy? — Monogamy is, by far, the most common form of relationship in our society. But is it healthy? Almost all of us were brought up surrounded by monogamous relationships to the point where we don’t even realise there are alternatives. Only monogamous relationships are recognised by law or the major religions…

If only I’d known this was the most difficult part of being non-monogamous — Beginning your journey into ethical non-monogamy is exciting. So many possibilities lay open to you. Things that were out-of-bounds in monogamy are suddenly back on the table. Hedonism beckons, and no one could begrudge you for getting a little over-excited about the possibilities. But when my wife and I opened…