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RELATIONSHIPS / POLYAMORY

The lessons I’ve learned after a decade of being in this situation

A shot through a hotel room door. We see a woman’s legs as she enters wearing a white robe. Through the door we see a man waiting, topless on the bed.
A shot through a hotel room door. We see a woman’s legs as she enters wearing a white robe. Through the door we see a man waiting, topless on the bed.
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RELATIONSHIPS / BREAKUPS

3 things to tell yourself when facing that final step

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RELATIONSHIPS / BREAKUPS

Relationships don’t have a “win-state”

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Two people sit under a tree, silhouetted against a sunset. There is a distance between them, with the sun showing between them as it lowers beyond the horizon.
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Why do we persist in this idea that there can be “failed” marriages?


RELATIONSHIPS / POLYAMORY

Sometimes, we need to push our boundaries

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A woman in a yellow shirt and red shorts is outside, bent over and peering intently at something in the distance through a pair of binoculars.
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POLYAMORY / DEFINITIONS

Continuing our exploration of the language of non-monogamy

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RELATIONSHIPS / CONSENT

Can our relationships be ethical without better education?

Two women sit next to each other against a wooden wall. They look away from each other, with thoughtful looks on their faces.
Two women sit next to each other against a wooden wall. They look away from each other, with thoughtful looks on their faces.
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SEXUALITY / PRIVILEGE

Why are some considered “sexy”, but others “perverted”?

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RELATIONSHIPS / POLYAMORY

You might not want to try it, but there’s still something to learn.

An older man and women sit in front of a laptop, focused on reading something on the screen.
An older man and women sit in front of a laptop, focused on reading something on the screen.
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What makes a relationship work varies from person to person


RELATIONSHIPS / POLYAMORY

Stop worrying about following templates and embrace your own needs

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Where does this worry come from?


RELATIONSHIPS / DATING

I didn’t want to, I thought I had to

A woman is in bed. The only illumination is from the mobile phone she is holding. She is browsing a dating app, and her expression shows she is not excited about it.
A woman is in bed. The only illumination is from the mobile phone she is holding. She is browsing a dating app, and her expression shows she is not excited about it.
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