If only I’d known this was the most difficult part of being non-monogamous — Beginning your journey into ethical non-monogamy is exciting. So many possibilities lay open to you. Things that were out-of-bounds in monogamy are suddenly back on the table. Hedonism beckons, and no one could begrudge you for getting a little over-excited about the possibilities. But when my wife and I opened…

Letting changes go unaddressed can lead to disaster. — Right, it’s relationship advice time. And today’s advice begins with a time-honored truism: Everything Changes. That’s right, everything. Some things might last a moment, while others last a lifetime, but eventually, everything shifts from what it was to what it has become. And that includes your relationship. You might not…

You should avoid hurting your partner because you don’t want to, not because you can’t. — Beginning your journey into polyamory can be daunting for many reasons. And one of those is the number of new words and phrases you can find yourself facing. No matter how prepared you think you are, when words such as “compersion” and “metamour” start flying around, it can feel overwhelming. …

Why a sexless relationship is better than one where the sex is pointless. — Why do we have sex? Well, there’s the obvious biological reason. The need for reproduction is hardwired into us as a species, isn’t it? But let’s put that to one side. …

How to tell someone is ready for polyamory, and has your best interests in mind — Relationships are an important part of our lives. We might not all be looking for the same thing, but, in the end, we’re looking for someone with whom we will grow more than we would without them. And so it’s important to learn the signs that indicate someone will be…

Everybody deserves the freedom to leave a relationship that no longer serves them. — As of Wednesday 6th April 2022, UK law will allow no-fault divorces. …

It’s time to break away from the “Supremacy of Talk” and embracing “Bilingual Intimacy” — Should an established, long-term relationship put more emphasis on physical or emotional connection? We all know the answer, right? Sex is great, but everyone knows that once a relationship has been around for a while, sex fades away. When the initial spark is gone, replaced by jobs, home maintenance, and…

Where is the line between pushing someone’s comfort zone, and forcing them into something they don’t want? — I write about modern relationships and ethical non-monogamy. And this means talking openly about sex. That’s right. Sex! Cue shock, horror, the clutching of pearls, won’t somebody think of the children, etc., etc. Because, you see, openly discussing sex in the way I sometimes do means pushing some people’s boundaries…

Those of us who have chosen to be ambassadors for this lifestyle are left sighing in frustration. — I have no desire to talk about Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars. If you want to read about whether this was a display of toxic masculinity, or okay to use violence to defend your family, or whether he should have had his award taken from him, just…