There is a difference between “polybombing” and “dropping the poly bomb”, and it’s important to know which is which — Beginning your journey into polyamory can be a daunting prospect. No one who’s being honest is going to say otherwise. …

Believe it or not, there is a difference between a One Penis Policy and a relationship dynamic with only one penis — If you’re new to polyamory, one of the many new terms you may have heard is “One Penis Policy”. And you may have also heard it spoken in a dismissive, even angry tone. Why is that? Surely it’s not problematic for a woman to not want to date other men? …

Wanting to explore ethical non-monogamy doesn’t mean giving up the power to say no — Recently, somebody reached out to me on the Discovering Polyamory Tumblr, asking for advice on a past relationship. Specifically, whether their unhappy experience with polyamory was down to their not being cut out for ethical non-monogamy or because, as they suspected, their partner had been abusive. As I’m sure you’ve…

Everyone needs to start their polyamory journey somewhere, but who takes on responsibility for teaching them? — Would you be prepared to date someone brand new to polyamory? I have. And those experiences have been universally rewarding for me. …

Ethical non-monogamy isn’t a “phase”, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be something you explore to discover more about yourself for a time. — Why are people polyamorous? Some people argue we are born this way. Others that’s it’s a conscious decision. But whatever you believe, we all have our own reasons why we decided to first explore this lifestyle. And while it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin…

Jealousy can be hard, but it should never control your relationships — Dealing with jealousy in polyamory can be hard. Jealousy is a deep, insidious feeling that burrows away inside us, cutting us off from the happiness of seeing our partner sleeping with, dating, or falling in love with someone new. …

When our needs don’t align with our partners, there are many more options than just giving up want you want or breaking up. — Why are people polyamorous? Some people argue we are born this way. Others that’s it’s a conscious decision. But whatever you believe, we all have our own reasons why we decided to first explore this lifestyle. And while it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin…

When you want to keep each of your ethically non-monogamous relationships as a separate entity — Polyamory is different for everybody. We’re not taking a single relationship model and forcing it on ourselves but figuring out what works for us. It’s a process and a conversation between us, our partners, and anyone else impacted by our relationships. And while some people love the idea of combining…

Deciding to explore polyamory because it aligns with your political views can be healthy as long as you still do the work — Why are people polyamorous? Some people argue we are born this way. Others that’s it’s a conscious decision. But whatever you believe, we all have our own reasons why we decided to first explore this lifestyle. And while it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin…