How much does a man’s income impact his dating prospects? — There have been a lot of changes in my life since the pandemic. And the two most significant ones are the ending of my marriage and moving from earning a decent salary to becoming a freelance creative. And these changes mean two things. One, I’m looking to start dating. Two…

I can try to be an ally, but what if I’m not as welcome in LGBTQ+ space as I think I am? — “Am I allowed to celebrate Pride?” This was the question I asked two of my friends when they invited me to join them for London Pride. The plan was for a whole group of us to meet up and watch the parade together, then move on to the party in…

There may be plenty of valid reasons to keep your non-monogamous life a secret, but I have to stay true to myself — How would you feel if someone you were dating refused to tell their friends and family about you? If they told you that while they really wanted to date you, nobody else could ever know? I imagine you wouldn’t feel very good about it at all. But the truth is…

Continuing to demystify the language of ethical non-monogamy — What the hell’s a “Sneakyarchy”? What does “Polybombing” mean? Why are people talking about the “One-Penis Policy”, and why do they hate it so much? As I’ve said before, one of the difficulties people encounter when beginning their journey into polyamory is getting their heads around the terminology. And we’re…

I’ve Never Turned Down Work Before, But What This Client Said Forced Me to Make an Exception — Like many creatives, I have this grand dream of only ever working on projects that satisfy me emotionally and philosophically. But I live in the real world. And as someone building a new freelance career, it’s next to impossible to turn down any work I get offered. And so, there…

Building a relationships is like visiting a sweet shop (just try to avoid getting a stomach ache) — “It’s all so hard. I’m not sure polyamory works for me.” A lot of people dismiss polyamory out of hand. We’ve all had the phrase “Oh, I could never do something like that” thrown at us as if we’d asked. …

Sometimes open communication and mind-blowing sex are not enough reason to stay. — What makes a “perfect” relationship? It depends on the person, of course. But I’d be willing to bet that, for many people, regular, no-strings, mind-blowing sex with a stunning Latin woman who neither expected nor wanted any form of long-term commitment would be near the top of the list. And…

The 6 Traits that Show Boris Johnson’s Relationship with the British Public has Always Been Toxic As I write this, the British Prime Minister, Alexander Boris de Pfeffel Johnson (yes, that is his real name), has finally resigned. This has not been a dignified process. After years of surviving a…

Could you really do it while her partner watches? — Recently, at a party, I found myself talking to someone attractive, interesting, and non-monogamous. You might think I’d hit the jackpot! But the reason I knew they were non-monogamous was they were as this party on a date with one of my polyamorous friends. …